TLT Recap: Well that was a doosy!

Last night's Technology-Less Tuesday (TLT) was, for the most part, a success. The kids were tired, and went to bed early (score!). My husband brought home some GF pizza from Garlic Jim's for dinner because I was having a bit of a rough day (Charlotte was a bit sick, extremely needy, and wouldn't let me put her down so I could make dinner).

With the girls in bed and the list of questions printed out,  I lit some candles and we settled onto the floor of our living room with a blanket and a glass of wine. If I told you that I was super excited about this TLT at the start of it, I would be lying. I was tired. I wanted time to myself. I didn't feel like getting in a 'deep' conversation with my husband.

That's just it. I realized that making the time to focus on our relationship is what TLT is all about - because all too often, I AM too tired and we end up not focusing on each other, but rather, doing something like catching up on our favorite TV shows (The Office anyone??).

So it was a bit of a rough start, but I managed to get over my case of the grumps and dove into the list.

Wow. The questions were hard!

My husband was looking forward to this exercise as he's been trying to figure out where his passion lies and what he's good at (in hopes of doing something he really truly loves for work instead of just going to a corporate office from 9-5 and doing what he's good at, but not passionate about). We made a few new discoveries about ourselves in doing this activity.

Even better was that we uncovered some interesting things about how we communicate with each other and discovered how we could make improvements to our relationship through better communication. We didn't really think we had an issue with communication prior to this exercise and it's not so much that we had an issue, but that there was an opportunity to do better.

 

What a good night it turned out to be! We ended up staying up too late because we were so involved in answering the questions set before us. We didn't even finish. Questions 8 & 9 were left lingering. I really wanted to conquer them all - that was the point of this TLT after all, right? My husband had to remind me that no, the point was to connect with one another....the questions were just a guide. So off to bed we went.

I'm curious, does Technology-Less Tuesday sound like something your relationship could benefit from? I challenge you to join in next week! It's really an incredible time to focus on your relationship in a new way. Will you do it?

TLT Recap: Well that was a doosy!

Last night's Technology-Less Tuesday (TLT) was, for the most part, a success. The kids were tired, and went to bed early (score!). My husband brought home some GF pizza from Garlic Jim's for dinner because I was having a bit of a rough day (Charlotte was a bit sick, extremely needy, and wouldn't let me put her down so I could make dinner).

With the girls in bed and the list of questions printed out,  I lit some candles and we settled onto the floor of our living room with a blanket and a glass of wine. If I told you that I was super excited about this TLT at the start of it, I would be lying. I was tired. I wanted time to myself. I didn't feel like getting in a 'deep' conversation with my husband.

That's just it. I realized that making the time to focus on our relationship is what TLT is all about - because all too often, I AM too tired and we end up not focusing on each other, but rather, doing something like catching up on our favorite TV shows (The Office anyone??).

So it was a bit of a rough start, but I managed to get over my case of the grumps and dove into the list.

Wow. The questions were hard!

My husband was looking forward to this exercise as he's been trying to figure out where his passion lies and what he's good at (in hopes of doing something he really truly loves for work instead of just going to a corporate office from 9-5 and doing what he's good at, but not passionate about). We made a few new discoveries about ourselves in doing this activity.

Even better was that we uncovered some interesting things about how we communicate with each other and discovered how we could make improvements to our relationship through better communication. We didn't really think we had an issue with communication prior to this exercise and it's not so much that we had an issue, but that there was an opportunity to do better.

 

What a good night it turned out to be! We ended up staying up too late because we were so involved in answering the questions set before us. We didn't even finish. Questions 8 & 9 were left lingering. I really wanted to conquer them all - that was the point of this TLT after all, right? My husband had to remind me that no, the point was to connect with one another....the questions were just a guide. So off to bed we went.

I'm curious, does Technology-Less Tuesday sound like something your relationship could benefit from? I challenge you to join in next week! It's really an incredible time to focus on your relationship in a new way. Will you do it?

Technology-Less Tuesday: Discover your unique ability

I'm having a date with my husband tonight.

It's so important that we find ways to connect with our partners and not let life get in the way of our relationship!

What's TLT? Read about it here: Technology-Less Tuesday

Have you taken time out of your week to date your partner? It's so rewarding, you should try it tonight.

In all honesty, I'm a little scared of tonight's theme. Deep thoughts are bound to surface. But I'm so excited to make some new discoveries and hear about what drives my man (and maybe discover something new about myself).

Here's the deal. Put the kids to bed, put away the phones, ipad, tv, computers, etc and then sit face to face with your partner to go over the following 9 questions:

Q #1: When was the last time I felt that my life was most meaningful?
Q #2: When do I feel that I’m offering the best of myself to others?
Q #3: How do I express the best of myself to others?
Q #4: When do I find that I’m the happiest and what am I doing?
Q #5: What past three experiences have brought joy and happiness into my life?
Q #6: What comes naturally and effortlessly to me?
Q #7: What do others think comes naturally and effortlessly to me?
Q #8: What are some of my hobbies? What do I do for fun?
Q #9: What activities have brought fulfillment and passion into my life?

Spice it up, light a candle (why a candle makes everything more romantic is beyond me, but hey, it seems to work that way - so light some candles tonight!).

Try it. I hope you have fun dating your partner!

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Question source: http://www.freedomeducation.ca/2009/07/08/9-questions-to-unlock-your-unique-ability/


 

Technology-Less Tuesday

My husband and I are quite plugged in these days. We carry android phones, have our own computers, play xbox (usually together), read on the kindle...you get the picture. We are wired. If I'm not looking up recipes online, I'm ordering our weekly groceries to be delivered or checking email...or researching the latest and greatest deals. We are always connected to technology.

Except for Tuesday nights.

In an effort to connect with each other and grow our relationship, my husband came up with our weekly date-night-in called, Technology-Less Tuesday (aka TLT's).

Yup, we do this every Tuesday.

It's funny how when you live with someone for a while and have kids running around, you don't actually talk that often. I mean, we talk all the time, but it's totally different when you ban all technology and sit face to face to intentionally get to know each other. I guess this is why some people go on date nights - that sounds mighty dreamy, but in all honesty, we don't have a babysitter on call and we kind of like that TLT doesn't require spending money. It's simply about being together.

Our TLT's have been great for keeping the fire burning in our relationship.

We recently started having themes for our TLT's - it's so fun, will you join me?

I want to challenge you to drop the technology and create your own TLT (if Tuesday doesn't work, pick another day that works best for your schedule).

On our last TLT we sat down with paper and pencils with the task of drawing (my husband's idea). I was stumped. I am not an artist! I had no idea where to start, or what to draw.

Then it came to me. For a couple of years I've been talking about how I want to remodel our kitchen and my hubs has always said, "draw it out for me." So I knew my task, but I had no idea how to draw (and that 3D thing? FORGET IT!).

This is where it got exciting. My husband started teaching me what he knows. And I gotta say, I'm kind of proud of my drawing (and that I was able to to follow his direction)! I was totally out of my comfort zone, but once again, TLT drew my husband and I closer together as we stumbled through this drawing activity.

What do you think - will you join us for a TLT?


Next week, we hope to find our true calling by answering the following 9 Questions to Unlock Your Unique Ability:

Q #1: When was the last time I felt that my life was most meaningful?
Q #2: When do I feel that I’m offering the best of myself to others?
Q #3: How do I express the best of myself to others?
Q #4: When do I find that I’m the happiest and what am I doing?
Q #5: What past three experiences have brought joy and happiness into my life?
Q #6: What comes naturally and effortlessly to me?
Q #7: What do others think comes naturally and effortlessly to me?
Q #8: What are some of my hobbies? What do I do for fun?
Q #9: What activities have brought fulfillment and passion into my life?

I'm hoping we discover some of our unique abilities through this exercise!

Will you take up the challenge? Please join us this next Tuesday.

If you don't have a significant other, I challenge you to call up any of your friends and ask them to join in TLT with you - you never know, you might just create a beautiful experience doing something new together!

I'm looking forward to hearing your stories!